This stuff isnt going to get sorted unless Nuggy, Aussie, Goldon, Maxally, Paige or whoever etc instead of just posting one post complaining of bullying/trolling etc etc and then going into hiding or posting cryptic messages you need to actually put some specific details of what is annoying you or why you feel troll/bullied etc. Then everyone needs to (calmly lol) come to some agreement e.g. all ignore eachother, agree to get on or agree to avoid replying to eachother in a certain way. This nonsense has been bubbling underneath the surface for months and it's just getting boring. If as HHY says above it's because someone disagrees with you or you just don't like someone/their posting style then you don't have a leg to stand on but if there are specific reasons then keeping it a secret isnt going to sort it out! The other solution of course is just heavy moderating and I don't think anyone wants that. Posted by jdsallstar
We are trying really hard to avoid that, as Sky Sam alluded to earlier. We won't let it continue indefinitely though.
Everyone wants the last word, but it'd be better if we all moved on.
In Response to Re: i am being trolled : We are trying really hard to avoid that, as Sky Sam alluded to earlier. We won't let it continue indefinitely though. Everyone wants the last word, but it'd be better if we all moved on. Posted by Tikay10
Ok my last word on it. Bolded bit above is what i think everyone wants but it just isnt happening.
One side is resentful because they (rightly or wrongly) feel bullied/trolled and the other side feel resentful because they have been accused of being bullies, trolls/forcing posters away without any detail or specifics to back up the accusations.
The rest of us just get bored reading it or put off posting because we dont want to get in the middle of it all. I've felt like that but had enough and had to have my say, so apologies if I've fueled it more but I'm just sick of the atmosphere on every thread.
Anyway I've said my piece (maybe that should be "peace" given the topic?!) and hopefully those involved and sky can maybe all sort it all in the background. Sweeping it under the carpet isnt working.
Ps if top of the posts ever does return I'm counting matt's comment above as a vote
I completely get why everyone wants the last word, I know I would, but we really need to find closure.
It's particularly uncomfortable for me, not just because the failure or success of this forum sits largely on my shoulders - but also because all the parties are friends of mine. And I do mean friends, not just acquaintances. It's like being a parent watching his family squabble, and not wanting to show favour. Rob, Paul and even Plumpy are all mates of mine.
Anyway, let's move on. No other site has a forum these days, and it's definitely a positive. So it behaves us all to look after this place.
We don't all have to agree with each other of course. That would be terrible.
I'm very keen to see more positivity here, and I'll do my bit. Everyone else needs to weigh in too though.
I read a really interesting thing the other day. The younger generation equate happiness with excitement, whilst the older sorts equate happiness with peace. I'm the exception to that rule, obv.
^^^^ Good post JD. I completely get why everyone wants the last word, I know I would, but we really need to find closure. It's particularly uncomfortable for me, not just because the failure or success of this forum sits largely on my shoulders - but also because all the parties are friends of mine. And I do mean friends, not just acquaintances. It's like being a parent watching his family squabble, and not wanting to show favour. Rob, Paul and even Plumpy are all mates of mine. Anyway, let's move on. No other site has a forum these days, and it's definitely a positive. So it behaves us all to look after this place. We don't all have to agree with each other of course. That would be terrible. I'm very keen to see more positivity here, and I'll do my bit. Everyone else needs to weigh in too though. I read a really interesting thing the other day. The younger generation equate happiness with excitement, whilst the older sorts equate happiness with peace. I'm the exception to that rule, obv. Peace. Posted by Tikay10
Is there a reason that the people who don't get on just do not press the ignore button? Surely that solves the issues?
There is probably something in human nature that makes us curious even though we claim we don't get on with people, as such we do not want to miss any drama on the forum.
If someone could do a live vlog at the SPT and interview all the parties concerned it might make good tv or more likely face to face people are more accepting of each other's ism's.
Last time I looked you had to be 18 to play poker on here. Can we, therefore all grow up, act like adults and stop putting the exsistence of this forum at risk.
I thought it would just mean you never saw their posts again, from what you are saying it just alerts you that they have posted so that you know not to look? Seems strange.
Last time I looked you had to be 18 to play poker on here. Can we, therefore all grow up, act like adults and stop putting the exsistence of this forum at risk. Posted by 68Trebor
Ok Here Goes, I am sorry for all that I have said and am very sorry to all those I have offended over the past few months. I to have been in a bad place my Husband has been ill for a while now he has had a lot of test,s his younger brother passed away in 2006 from cancer he was 46.The doctor,s looking after my husband were concerned that my husband had cancer,It took just 8 month,s for my dear brother in law to pass away,Iwas so stressed that my husband would pass away no excuse but I vented my stress on this forum. my husband has now had the all clear the letter arrived yesterday and am now in a happier place.I now realise I should have talked to someone about how I was feeling not having any children I did not no who to turn to.Once again apologies to all that I offended on this forum,May this forum continue and I will post now and again but in a positive way regard,s paige55
Ok Here Goes, I am sorry for all that I have said and am very sorry to all those I have offended over the past few months. I to have been in a bad place my Husband has been ill for a while now he has had a lot of test,s his younger brother passed away in 2006 from cancer he was 46.The doctor,s looking after my husband were concerned that my husband had cancer,It took just 8 month,s for my dear brother in law to pass away,Iwas so stressed that my husband would pass away no excuse but I vented my stress on this forum. my husband has now had the all clear the letter arrived yesterday and am now in a happier place.I now realise I should have talked to someone about how I was feeling not having any children I did not no who to turn to.Once again apologies to all that I offended on this forum,May this forum continue and I will post now and again but in a positive way regard,s paige55 Posted by paige55
Grea news Paige, certainly can put things in perspective.
i participate in a few forums and they all have the bickering. nothing will change. id like to see forfeits or something along those lines. forum police to dish out punishments. ie i have to play a DYM, heads up match between hhft and aussie etc. dont have tobe massive stakes,
Glad your husband is all clear. I know how scary that feeling is as have been through it myself.
As for this forum what happened to the happy banter. Fgs we are all adults, no one will ever see eye to eye and not every one will get on. Yes people will rub one another up the wrong way. Just remember this the written word is harder to comprehend as hasn't got any inflection of the spoken word. It has no emotion. If you see a post that disagrees with you and isn't constructive then just ignore it. Don't bite back. It's worse than being in my play ground at school with the adults. I class it being stood in a pit full of vipers. It's about time we became adults and got along instead of coming across as childish.
Is there any wonder people have stopped posting in here with all this squabbling going off?
Good luck to you all on the tables and please let bygones be bygones.
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Everyone wants the last word, but it'd be better if we all moved on.
Last time I looked you had to be 18 to play poker on here. Can we, therefore all grow up, act like adults and stop putting the exsistence of this forum at risk.
+1, like being in a school playground at times.