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Am I just completely out of touch here
so a few years back I had very little confidence with the ladies, I decided though that peoples behaviour had to follow a logical pattern and their had to be a logical way to succeed with women. If not then it would not make sense that some guys were very good at getting women and others were not. So I decided to do some research and some of the stuff I found was nonsense or seemed silly but then I found Corey Wayne tried his advice and bam I have a girlfriend who is completely in love with me coming up to two years now.
to this day I am still interested in the psychology of it and what works and what does not and why. what fascinated me about Corey Wayne is I literally could roll back to every girl I had ever dated without fail and notice that if I had applied what he said I would have stood much better chance.
So I still listen to some dating coaches today as well as Corey Wayne just out of curiosity because I genuinely believe that attraction is an evolutionary response that evolved that way for a reason, and I find this interesting.
Just some of the ideas thrown around seem to be a bit simplistic and archaic and often seems to rank people. girls are just referred to as numbers shes an 8 (been attractive) or a 9 or 10 been very attractive or 6 or 7 which is supposed to mean above average but usually means average. where as a 5 would mean average but generally means ugly. and guys seem to be ranked by their status and wealth.
I just seem to think this is a bit simplistic I mean if you found a supermodel who had an IQ of 85 I think most people would say she was way out of my league despite the fact I would have no interest in her. conversely if you found a girl who was overweight and most guys would find unattractive say a 3 or 4 according to most rankings people would give but this girl and i really clicked and got on really well with why not go for that?
my ex was just completely wrong for me, we had nothing in common I could not handle our extreme behaviours and just had no idea how to deal with her. on the flip side I was completely wrong for her. so was the guy she was dating very soon after me better then me? in terms of been ideal for her yes absolutely but in terms of my current partner no I am better. this whole idea pervading round the internet that everyones total quality can be graded on scale of 1 to ten seems absurd.
and if I am ranked a 6 I should apparently be bending over backwards if I get the chance to out with a 8 but snobbishly rejecting a 4. no sort of mention on how we connect.
the most recently silly thing i saw was a video by a guy called better bachelor who I think just got hurt and has always been very bitter. If you listen to this guy you would believe that the vast vast vast vast majority of girls were shallow gold diggers who would likely only go for you if you had money and then cheat on you unless you were perfect in every way and then falsely accuse you of rape if you had any objection or put up any argument about anything. if you believe this guy then yes this does not apply to all women but probably something around 95% of them. He was talking about Tom Brady some big time American football player who I assume is very wealthy. His message was now look even Tom Brady is not good enough for his partner.
Well hold on a minute I know nothing about Tom Brady as person other then he is very rich has a well built body would be considered a very good looking guy and is a world class Athlete. what if the guy is a complete jerk in person? I have no idea and am not making any accusations or assertions as to what Tom brady is like in a relationship. Just he could be anything from a really caring devoted partner to someone who is very abusive and or cruel or maybe he cheats/ talks to other women in an inappropriate way. Why must I assume that every single women on the planet must want Tom Brady does connection and how you relate to someone not count for anything?
to this day I am still interested in the psychology of it and what works and what does not and why. what fascinated me about Corey Wayne is I literally could roll back to every girl I had ever dated without fail and notice that if I had applied what he said I would have stood much better chance.
So I still listen to some dating coaches today as well as Corey Wayne just out of curiosity because I genuinely believe that attraction is an evolutionary response that evolved that way for a reason, and I find this interesting.
Just some of the ideas thrown around seem to be a bit simplistic and archaic and often seems to rank people. girls are just referred to as numbers shes an 8 (been attractive) or a 9 or 10 been very attractive or 6 or 7 which is supposed to mean above average but usually means average. where as a 5 would mean average but generally means ugly. and guys seem to be ranked by their status and wealth.
I just seem to think this is a bit simplistic I mean if you found a supermodel who had an IQ of 85 I think most people would say she was way out of my league despite the fact I would have no interest in her. conversely if you found a girl who was overweight and most guys would find unattractive say a 3 or 4 according to most rankings people would give but this girl and i really clicked and got on really well with why not go for that?
my ex was just completely wrong for me, we had nothing in common I could not handle our extreme behaviours and just had no idea how to deal with her. on the flip side I was completely wrong for her. so was the guy she was dating very soon after me better then me? in terms of been ideal for her yes absolutely but in terms of my current partner no I am better. this whole idea pervading round the internet that everyones total quality can be graded on scale of 1 to ten seems absurd.
and if I am ranked a 6 I should apparently be bending over backwards if I get the chance to out with a 8 but snobbishly rejecting a 4. no sort of mention on how we connect.
the most recently silly thing i saw was a video by a guy called better bachelor who I think just got hurt and has always been very bitter. If you listen to this guy you would believe that the vast vast vast vast majority of girls were shallow gold diggers who would likely only go for you if you had money and then cheat on you unless you were perfect in every way and then falsely accuse you of rape if you had any objection or put up any argument about anything. if you believe this guy then yes this does not apply to all women but probably something around 95% of them. He was talking about Tom Brady some big time American football player who I assume is very wealthy. His message was now look even Tom Brady is not good enough for his partner.
Well hold on a minute I know nothing about Tom Brady as person other then he is very rich has a well built body would be considered a very good looking guy and is a world class Athlete. what if the guy is a complete jerk in person? I have no idea and am not making any accusations or assertions as to what Tom brady is like in a relationship. Just he could be anything from a really caring devoted partner to someone who is very abusive and or cruel or maybe he cheats/ talks to other women in an inappropriate way. Why must I assume that every single women on the planet must want Tom Brady does connection and how you relate to someone not count for anything?
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it works for some , for some it don't that's how it's always been and always will
if you're picking your partner on a sliding scale then basically you're f***ked
I mean being one of the most sucessful sportsmen on the planet (and still going Strong) and having a supermodel wife, yes He's definately not good enough for her.
There is no formula for relationships, some couples are very likeminded, some are polar opposites, some based on physical attraction, some yet on a cerebal connection. It can be an instant thing or a slowburner.
But the one thing they all require is work and the ability to be flexible and open, rigidty causes brittleness and that in turn leads to breakage.
Is dating coach a thing?
Good grief.
Not sure what appals me most, the fact that they even exist, or the fact that folks use them.
Jeez.
Why on earth would you spill your guts all over a forum?
If you were a bit chunky, had a face that only your Mother could love, and were struggling to pull, you could blame your dating coach.
I never used dating coaches myself they are far to expensive never found any that were less then £100 an hour and I just could never afford that. I did watch a few youtube channels. I do not know how if your bad at something and or lack confidence seeking to study it to get better is something to be ashamed of.
and pretty much everything can be taught and coached.
Love is one of the most sought after things in life it is one of the largest factors that leads to both happiness and misery. Most people could be happy if they had no success in life but found the love of their life who they get on very well with and stay together for life. Whilst there are plenty of rich people who get very depressed due to been lonely.
the negative stigma of what other people think should not stop someone from doing what helps them or gives them better chances of success in life.
I have faced many horrible humiliating things in life which I wont share on these forums. I reached the point where I care very little what others think. until or unless they can directly affect my life their opinion of me does not affect me.
What Men want....... is lots of money and lots of women. cough!
I think you are stating things as facts that you have no evidence for.
I am not sure that the majority of women are looking for men that are pretending to be something that they are not.
Besides which I dont have an opinion of you, I dont know you.