Not on tilt but a Wreck

timebomb10

it all started a week ago.
my girlfriend was saying i didnt respect her enough (i have no idea why)
so i stopped playing poker for abit and giving her the maximum attention.
yesterday she finished me after 3 years and abit,
my mind has gone to pieces not knowing what to do.
i find myself drawn back to poker but feel if i play i wont play at all like i used to.
i have no where to turn except the tables
as the 3 years of being with her i put the love i have 4 her other my mates and they have dissapeared
its a mind ****, i dont want to risk money when i know i wont play my best but i feel i have to because its all ive got what keeps me happy lol
sorry just needed to get this out there instead of bottling it up

Sky_Rich

Ah man, i really feel for you.

I'm not sure i'm the best qualified to give you advice but.... perhaps take a quick break from playing at the tables. If your head isn't right then i'm sure you won't be playing your best poker either. the break doesn't have to be for ever but just until you feel slightly better or even slightly more like yourself.

Why not just spend a little time in the community or even enjoy another hobby that doesn't involve gambling?

I know when i have had major life troubles in the past, getting outside and playing sport or even just going to the gym really helps me feel better.

if you do need anything- just shout or send me a quick PM.

Rich

loza666

hmmm sad story
all i would suggest is, if poker is what keeps u happy, why not put all time and effort into it?
make yourself a better player and maybe even try to qualify for vegas from sky as im sure that would get you happier
hope you feel better soon
gl
loza666

loza666

In Response to Re: Not on tilt but a Wreck:

Ah man, i really feel for you. I'm not sure i'm the best qualified to give you advice but.... perhaps take a quick break from playing at the tables. If your head isn't right then i'm sure you won't be playing your best poker either. the break doesn't have to be for ever but just until you feel slightly better or even slightly more like yourself. Why not just spend a little time in the community or even enjoy another hobby that doesn't involve gambling? I know when i have major life troubles in the past, getting outside and playing sport or even just going to the gym really helps me feel better. if you do need anything- just shout or send me a quick PM. Rich
Posted by Sky_Rich

lol, total opposite to what i suggested, but i guess yours is better lol
knowing me, i would lose all my money being crazy so yeh i think take this advice...ha

DOHHHHHHH

Why wont you play your best?

Why not play, but everytime the action comes to you, no matter if you are under the gun with 7-2 off (obvious raising situation), Or sat with the nuts facing an all in bet - let the time bar go down past at least half way before you make your play......

Then you wont make any rash decisions, caused by ur mind being on other things.

I personally think these kind things are just excuses for playing bad, same as being drunk, rather than looking at the real problem (making bad decisions)

Use poker to make yourself a fortune, she'll come back then.

GL, DOHH

Neildown

If you love her then forget about poker and try to win her back, there isn't much worse feelings than talking to someone while they are playing a game and just getting "what, er , yeah , no " answers

Iv had many arguments and fallings out with my gf about poker in the past and had to give up playing the orfordable as it took up the whole evening

If you think poker could be the reason she started to have these negative feelings then promise to keep the pc off while she is about etc

Feel for you man , iv been in the same situation in the past and its a scary feeling after such a long relationship

hope it all works out

YoungUn

In Response to Re: Not on tilt but a Wreck:

Use poker to make yourself a fortune, she'll come back then.
Posted by DOHHHHHHH

This. She'll be running back to you in seconds. I know because I have a gold-digging gf who hates that I play poker, except for when I win. Guaranteed win.

In all seriousness, I'd do what Rich says and find some other way of occupying your time. I take it you play on Sky using your PC/Laptop? Why not buy a PC game that you can spend hours on, for example Football Manager? Quality game that can keep you going for hours on end. However, that's what i'd do.

You should ask yourself this question IMO: "Is my mood going to affect my concentration or decision making in any way that is different to how I usually play?" If the answer is yes, which I get the impression it is, then try and find something else to do. I know from experience that playing poker in a bad mood just makes you feel even worse if you're not winning.

If I had to give a really simple response, i'd say play poker at the lowest available level, so that it doesn't hurt much if you lose.

EDIT - Ignore this. The post above />>>>>>>>>>>>>>> My post.

ACESOVER8s

Can't help with your love life i'm afraid but if your worried about your poker then may i suggest dropping your daily / weekly deposit limit on the site, Cashing out any money you don't want to risk and then playing with what your willing to lose until you feel you have your a game back. Drop levels to compensate for the drop in bankroll and just ease back in until your confident that your mind set is not affecting your decision making.

While your cashing some of your bankroll out you may want to use your gains to try and Woo your lady back, but not knowing either of you i couldn't begin to comment on if this is a worthwhile investment

GL and Chin up

Chris

Mr_Miyagi

Is that her next to you in your pic?

if yes then I wouldn't bother too much about it.

Ms_Chips

So sad..... Normally when a girl says you don't respect her that implies there is a communication problem between you both and this is backed up by you saying you don't know why. You really need to speak to her like someone suggested if you want to keep her. But I could not agree more with Rich. QUIT poker for the time being. You could play your 'A' Game which is almost impossible to do when your an emotional wreck and even if you could when you receive a bad beat you will feel the whole world is against you and really it makes you want to cry. Get out go to the gym take up boxing or something maybe read a poker book to prepare to destroy the tables on your return.

Miyagi your soooo bad haha

BADBOY985

how about getting your mates round for a few beers and a friendly game of poker.
gives you something to focus on and a chance to build bridges with your mates.

pod1

self indulgance is what it is all about for the next few weeks mate. poker, beer, beer poker, chuck in a few loose women, clothes shoppin (if you are into that sort of things) , more beer more poker.

Ms_Chips

In Response to Re: Not on tilt but a Wreck:

self indulgance is what it is all about for the next few weeks mate. poker, beer, beer poker, chuck in a few loose women, clothes shoppin (if you are into that sort of things) , more beer more poker.
Posted by pod1

he'll be broke before he knows it lol

DOHHHHHHH

In Response to Re: Not on tilt but a Wreck:

self indulgance is what it is all about for the next few weeks mate. poker, beer, beer poker, chuck in a few loose women, clothes shoppin (if you are into that sort of things) , more beer more poker.
Posted by pod1

lol great advice.....don't get depressed tho, n dnt chase her ffs.

I wrote a reply....and highlighted the clothes shopping thing, then realised it was a joke....it was a joke?.....?....???

Any feedback on timebomb? did u play? and how did it go?

donkeyplop

if theres one thing ive learnt from playing on sky is that most women do not like you playing poker.

ive been in the same situation where ive been devoting more time to poker than the better half!!!!

like someone else said get your mates round for a game of poker maybe.

DeuceAK_47

In Response to Re: Not on tilt but a Wreck:

If you love her then forget about poker and try to win her back, there isn't much worse feelings than talking to someone while they are playing a game and just getting "what, er , yeah , no " answers Iv had many arguments and fallings out with my gf about poker in the past and had to give up playing the orfordable as it took up the whole evening If you think poker could be the reason she started to have these negative feelings then promise to keep the pc off while she is about etc Feel for you man , iv been in the same situation in the past and its a scary feeling after such a long relationship hope it all works out
Posted by HuFlungPu

Very good advice, if it was me then i would meet up with her and talk things through for a couple of hours so every1 knows where they stand.
It does not get any easier the longer you are together though, i have been with my gf for five years and it was only the other night my girlfriend was so angry she almost broke all my screens when she read something DOHHHHHHH said in the chatbox lol.

By the way HuFlungPu i think turning off your computer is a step to far lol...i said i would do it if she stopped smoking around me :-)

DOHHHHHHH

I remember talking to you in the chatbox Deuce, thats how I recruited you for team Dohhhh.....but have no idea what it was I said......Remind me! - if she aint around

Eagle26

In Response to Re: Not on tilt but a Wreck:

In Response to Re: Not on tilt but a Wreck : Very good advice, if it was me then i would meet up with her and talk things through for a couple of hours so every1 knows where they stand. It does not get any easier the longer you are together though, i have been with my gf for five years and it was only the other night my girlfriend was so angry she almost broke all my screens when she read something DOHHHHHHH said in the chatbox lol. By the way HuFlungPu i think turning off your computer is a step to far lol...i said i would do it if she stopped smoking around me :-)
Posted by DeuceAK-47

lmao!! what did he say??? plz tell

Eagle26

as for the original poster! i know how u feel mate i was with my bird for over 3 years we were engaged and everything, i pretty much sacked off all my mates like a fool, then she left me for some other bloke!! i was gutted at the time obviously but it was the BEST thing to ever happen to me!! if your mates are true friends they will understand and they will take u back in a heartbeat (probably give ya some stick about it lol) ...u can play poker whenever u want, go out with the lads whenever u want. sleep with whoever u want!! its all good buddy u are only about 20-21 aint ya?? enjoy single life for a bit now! so man up! get out round the town! build ya bridges with ur mates! and get back on the poker tables!!

DeuceAK_47

I cant remember exactly...it was not that bad but something to do with her spreding her legs and a golf ball lol...i think she was more p1ssed off as she would of done the above but i was paying more intrest to my computer :-)

Eagle26

In Response to Re: Not on tilt but a Wreck:

I cant remember exactly...it was not that bad but something to do with her spreding her legs and a golf ball lol...i think she was more p1ssed off as she would of done the above but i was paying more intrest to my computer :-)
Posted by DeuceAK-47

who said romance was dead? Dohhhhhhhh u old charmer!!