I have been contemplating ending this thread, at present I am in remission which pretty much means day to day I am doing the same things, taking medication,having ups and downs,etc etc.
When I think of the suffering of others, and the passing of Dale, I feel that I'm doing them a dis-service by posting my "journey" to (hopefully) recovery, it's such a head scratcher.
I may post now and again to do my bit for the forum,although at present I have nothing to report other than I haven't played poker over the Xmas period, I shall be participating in ukops tonight in a few of the smaller buy ins.
Once again a huge thanks to all who have contributed to this thread and kept my spirits high when I definately needed it, there are lots of kind folk on here which have helped me and given me hope for the future.
Tom please do not shut this thread down,Not sure what to say to you only that the man who works for my husband, has been through what you have gone through, he is well now :):) please stay and post when you feel you need to, my regards always to you and your family, my best wishes i send you for 2016 love trish and tony xxx
Please keep posting Tom. I read but dont post anymore on here due to your 'associates' but will post my support for it now. Best wishes to you and your family in 2016. regards, Alan. Posted by MAXALLY
I rest my case Tom You may see it one day. You seem a intelligent man. I have chose to ignore the keyboard warriors/wind up merchants/sad troll life on here now....like I said, it is why I didn't comment on your thread for a while.
Let me say this though - your thread has been a reality check, to see you bravely battling this dreadful illness, & with such dignity, has been uplifting for so many of us, & it makes it harder for us to take the minor moans & groans of poker players ("where's my Freeroll?") seriously.
Happy New Year, & here's to a happy 2016. And '17, & '18, & beyond.
When I was in my teens I was "best buddies" with a lad, we went pretty much everywhere, shared everything. Of course there were folk that doubted him, came from wrong side of tracks, etc etc, he was a fun guy and we had some great times.
He lost his job for some reason or another, doesn't matter really, I was gainfully employed down t' pit, we used to meet up after I fin work at the weekend and he had his dole money, we went to the pub, both of us were pretty good at pool, played for a quid winner stays on, I used to win about £25 a night which when you consider a pint was about 50p and it was £2.50 to get in the nightclub it was fun times, every time I won I just threw the pound note to my mate and we would tally up at the end of the evening and go to the nightclub to enjoy the rest of the evening on one way or another...:)
When the pit was shut down we decided to "up sticks" and come down to Eastbourne, rinse repeat above, fab times.
Of course as time past we went our separate ways, fell in love etc etc.
10 or so years later we bumped into each other, went to the pub, had a meal, caught up with all what's happening and reminisced about the great times we had, we both had a bit to drink. Then he broke down crying....and said " please forgive me Tom, when we used to go out and I said I had no money left and you paid, I had put some of the winnings from pool in my sock, I lied to you"
He had been carrying the burden of guilt around for many years, of course I forgave him. I walked away after shaking his hand, we were young, we do stupid things, say stupid things,.
The moral of the story? Dunno really, we are here a short time and keeping hold of bitterness does no one any good.try to forgive and forget.
Tom, That little vignette is exactly the reason I would love to see you keep posting and keep this thread going. Ps did i ever tell you about Brian Laras house ;-))) Posted by HENDRIK62
Forgiveness. Below is a true story. When I was in my teens I was "best buddies" with a lad, we went pretty much everywhere, shared everything. Of course there were folk that doubted him, came from wrong side of tracks, etc etc, he was a fun guy and we had some great times. He lost his job for some reason or another, doesn't matter really, I was gainfully employed down t' pit, we used to meet up after I fin work at the weekend and he had his dole money, we went to the pub, both of us were pretty good at pool, played for a quid winner stays on, I used to win about £25 a night which when you consider a pint was about 50p and it was £2.50 to get in the nightclub it was fun times, every time I won I just threw the pound note to my mate and we would tally up at the end of the evening and go to the nightclub to enjoy the rest of the evening on one way or another...:) When the pit was shut down we decided to "up sticks" and come down to Eastbourne, rinse repeat above, fab times. Of course as time past we went our separate ways, fell in love etc etc. 10 or so years later we bumped into each other, went to the pub, had a meal, caught up with all what's happening and reminisced about the great times we had, we both had a bit to drink. Then he broke down crying....and said " please forgive me Tom, when we used to go out and I said I had no money left and you paid, I had put some of the winnings from pool in my sock, I lied to you" He had been carrying the burden of guilt around for many years, of course I forgave him. I walked away after shaking his hand, we were young, we do stupid things, say stupid things,. The moral of the story? Dunno really, we are here a short time and keeping hold of bitterness does no one any good.try to forgive and forget. Posted by tomgoodun[/QUOTe
I don't really post much on forum (the odd time when Jac35 has bullied me into bumping his diary), but I felt the urge to tell you that this kind of post is what makes the forum great.
I don't really post much on forum (the odd time when Jac35 has bullied me into bumping his diary), but I felt the urge to tell you that this kind of post is what makes the forum great. Posted by cpfc_2010
I rest my case Tom You may see it one day. You seem a intelligent man. I have chose to ignore the keyboard warriors/wind up merchants/sad troll life on here now....like I said, it is why I didn't comment on your thread for a while. Posted by MAXALLY
AN intelligent man. I have CHOSEN, or I CHOSE. The beauty of life, you never stop learning, even well into your 50s.
Great story Tom, and exactly why you will be lynched if you try to close this! The only reason for 'The Rail' to exist.
Thanks for the encouragement, on your head be it as the old saying goes
I was involved in a random Facebook " discussion" today, a lady posted a photo to her friends who must have re posted it to include me ( uh oh) , the photo was of the meal they were served in a pub on Xmas day to her and her family,and she was asking her friends what did they think of such a terrible offering..Sooooo, I felt obligated to give her a different opinion to all the oh poor you, shouldn't have paid, etc etc.
I am of the old fashioned values brigade, and politely said she got everything on the plate she deserved,as I feel Xmas day should be spent at home with the family, nothing better than a lovely roast dinner which either cooked by a loved one, or part of a team if help is welcomed, all family round table sharing tales of times gone by and wishing everyone well.
Needless to say I got slated for daring to have this "sexist" ( huh) opinion. Well done Jeremy Kyle, your participants have become the norm.
your postings have been an inspiration to read tom your handling of the situation dignified, and the loving bond between you and your family shines through like a beacon all the best for you and yours in 2016
Methinks it's time I posted an update, I have been doing ok on the health front..sort of. My leg and hip feel like they are getting gradually worse,the pain sometimes is pretty brutal, I may not be taking my tablets correct my good lady has badgered me to make an appointment at docs but the thing is they operate a triage system which means I have to explain to the very nice receptionist what is the nature of the problem,then she takes notes,then tells me the doc will ring me to see if I need to come in to see her. I have become rather intolerant of this system so like the intelligent man I am I ignore the pain and troop on, I mean it's hard enough explaining the REALLY embaressing stuff without trying for an appointment for an issue I have suffered with for years now...
Work wise, more woe is me I'm afraid, apparently since I have been off the shop floor running things, the firm has lost a lot of money ( read into that what you will) so a meeting was held with all staff and pay cuts along with other potential grim forecasts if things don't improve were announced.
So further to above my wife and I decided as I still have a job for the time being at least we would go ahead with our plan for this years holiday we are researching prices for a cruise and 4 days in Vegas, taking along my daughter ( and Alex if he and his girlfriend can make it) as it is my 60th and Chloe's 21st birthdays this year, I mentioned it to a friend on this very forum and he has been really kind in doing research into this for us also, I was so choked up when I received his message,I showed it to Sarah and were both bowled over by the gesture.Thank you Jon,you have your haters but people don't see this part of you and if they did perhaps a different opinion would be formed ,who knows
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Morning Tom,
Entirely up to you.
Let me say this though - your thread has been a reality check, to see you bravely battling this dreadful illness, & with such dignity, has been uplifting for so many of us, & it makes it harder for us to take the minor moans & groans of poker players ("where's my Freeroll?") seriously.
Happy New Year, & here's to a happy 2016. And '17, & '18, & beyond.
Grrrrrrrrrrrr
Posted by cpfc_2010
Great story Tom, and exactly why you will be lynched if you try to close this! The only reason for 'The Rail' to exist.
Great to read positive news on the health front and that you have enjoyed a fantastic holiday and family Christmas.
All 3 very well deserved.
All the very best for 2016.