In Response to Real life! : A really nice post. As a kid i was diagnosed with Aspegers Syndrome a minor form of Autism. I think theres more help avalible now but certainly growing up i think i never got the help i needed. As i said i believe this has changed now and more people know how to deal with "problem" kids with disabilites.* * I say "problem" kids as this is how i was often refered to. As you said there is far more to life than poker and if the worst that happens is a couple of bad beats we're running good in the real world. I wish you and your family all the best. Posted by The_Don90
Appreciate the post Don.Alls not lost if my wee man has autism.I've a few mates with autistic kids and they function really well in the real world.Again,cheers for the response m8.
In Response to Re: Real life! : Appreciate the post Don.Alls not lost if my wee man has autism.I've a few mates with autistic kids and they function really well in the real world.Again,cheers for the response m8. Paul. Posted by bignoise10
Yeah i was invited to groups with kids that where far worse off than me im still mates with one or two of them now, Although often mis-understood they have done well from what many expected them to years ago. One thing i brought up was lack of help for kids with disabilites. The most amount of help i was given was write all the "what if" questions i could think of. Now thats not much help, it was just because teachers where sick of my curiousity by asking "what if i did this" or "what if this happened". I ended up assisting teachers in the learning support departments during my study periods and i found this to be very rewarding. I also believe i was able to help the teachers understand because pupils spoke to me about problems more because i was still one of them.
This is just my story and i know its boring but in sharing my experiances but i believe fully that everyone has great potential. Unlocking that is the key. Disabilities only appear as a barrier, but they do not stop.
Even if the wee man does have Autism please dont see it as a bad thing. It has some major advantages, inparticular in an educational sense.
Some lovely posts here. Like you Paul my son is 'possibly' autistic. He is 4 and a half with the speech and communication of a 2 year old. His diagnosis so far is learning difficulties and a communication disorder.
I'm hoping once he starts special school in Aug and starts seeing more specialists we will get answers with regards to autism. At the moment he is in mainstream nursery with 2 support assistants and he sees the speech therapist once a week. He really has came on brilliantly!! His speech and communication is still very delayed for his age but he is the happiest wee boy (when his routine isn't interrupted!!) and he has the most amazing memory, he never fails to amaze when he can recite upcoming lines in a cartoon months after last seeing it.
I hope all goes well with your son the speech therapists really are amazing. Don't be afraid to ask lots of questions!!
Some lovely posts here. Like you Paul my son is 'possibly' autistic. He is 4 and a half with the speech and communication of a 2 year old. His diagnosis so far is learning difficulties and a communication disorder. I'm hoping once he starts special school in Aug and starts seeing more specialists we will get answers with regards to autism. At the moment he is in mainstream nursery with 2 support assistants and he sees the speech therapist once a week. He really has came on brilliantly!! His speech and communication is still very delayed for his age but he is the happiest wee boy (when his routine isn't interrupted!!) and he has the most amazing memory, he never fails to amaze when he can recite upcoming lines in a cartoon months after last seeing it. I hope all goes well with your son the speech therapists really are amazing. Don't be afraid to ask lots of questions!! Good luck, Lisa x Posted by lisar83
Whether it goes the way my wife and I would like or not dosent really matter.It'll just be another wee hurdle to get over.Deffo not the end of the world.Everythings about perspective really,isnt it?Nice to see theres folk on the forum givin up a few minutes of their time to comment.Everyones story gives meanin to my opening post.Pokers there to be enjoyed and more important issues exist away from the game.Hope everything goes well with your wee man also.Be lucky.
In Response to Re: Real life! : Yeah i was invited to groups with kids that where far worse off than me im still mates with one or two of them now, Although often mis-understood they have done well from what many expected them to years ago. One thing i brought up was lack of help for kids with disabilites. The most amount of help i was given was write all the "what if" questions i could think of. Now thats not much help, it was just because teachers where sick of my curiousity by asking "what if i did this" or "what if this happened". I ended up assisting teachers in the learning support departments during my study periods and i found this to be very rewarding. I also believe i was able to help the teachers understand because pupils spoke to me about problems more because i was still one of them. This is just my story and i know its boring but in sharing my experiances but i believe fully that everyone has great potential. Unlocking that is the key. Disabilities only appear as a barrier, but they do not stop. Even if the wee man does have Autism please dont see it as a bad thing. It has some major advantages, inparticular in an educational sense. Posted by The_Don90
Deffo woudnt see it as a disadvantage m8.Just somethin different.He aint ill so thats the main thing.Thx for postin and enjoy your poker man.
In Response to Re: Real life! : Whether it goes the way my wife and I would like or not dosent really matter.It'll just be another wee hurdle to get over.Deffo not the end of the world.Everythings about perspective really,isnt it?Nice to see theres folk on the forum givin up a few minutes of their time to comment.Everyones story gives meanin to my opening post.Pokers there to be enjoyed and more important issues exist away from the game.Hope everything goes well with your wee man also.Be lucky. Paul Posted by bignoise10
Exactly the right attitude to have. I will admit to shedding a few tears when I found out, but once I got that out my system I felt happy to be getting the help that he needs!! Like you say it's just another wee hurdle to overcome. Please keep us posted about speech therapy etc would love to hear how he is getting on.
I don't really talk about this at all but because of the contributions in this thread i thought i would write. One story that I have only told to half a dozen people privately before is a trivial anecdote but it had huge meaning for me and it all happened so quickly.I feel that you might understand. I was once asked, maybe when my son George was about 10 (he is now 25) what would I wish for if I had three wishes. I replied that I wish that George didn't have Down's Syndrome. My second wish, after a wee bit of thinking, was something like having lots of money. My third wish came to me immediately after, and that was to totally undo my first wish.
I don't really talk about this at all but because of the contributions in this thread i thought i would write. One story that I have only told to half a dozen people privately before is a trivial anecdote but it had huge meaning for me and it all happened so quickly. I feel that you might understand. I was once asked, maybe when my son George was about 10 (he is now 25) what would I wish for if I had three wishes. I replied that I wish that George didn't have Down's Syndrome. My second wish, after a wee bit of thinking, was something like having lots of money. My third wish came to me immediately after, and that was to totally undo my first wish. How fantastic is that? Rob. Posted by aussie09
I don't really talk about this at all but because of the contributions in this thread i thought i would write. One story that I have only told to half a dozen people privately before is a trivial anecdote but it had huge meaning for me and it all happened so quickly. I feel that you might understand. I was once asked, maybe when my son George was about 10 (he is now 25) what would I wish for if I had three wishes. I replied that I wish that George didn't have Down's Syndrome. My second wish, after a wee bit of thinking, was something like having lots of money. My third wish came to me immediately after, and that was to totally undo my first wish. How fantastic is that? Rob. Posted by aussie09
Some of the people who have made certain comments about Idonkcallu on other threads should read what he posted on here about his troubles and maybe they would change their view. It just shows that we shouldn't take things at face value and there is often a very good explanation why some people are the way they are.
Edited too add: Aussie09 just read your post, that's lovely.
Just saw your post and felt the need to say hi and my thoughts are with you. Bignoise has a big heart and you can climb this hill successfully, i'm sure. You can feel the support just on here and it does help. Have you considered looking for a support group if your child is diagnosed as autistic. I joined one, for a different matter, and found it so useful to talk to people in the same position. It's good to know that people you tak to understand you completely.
As for poker....it is just a game. i play it for fun but i'm trying to improve. I'm a losing player , especially with all the money i've spent on books, but 'm loving it. I give myself an allotted amount per night/week/ month whatever and consider it as 'entertainment' money . At the end, i ask myself one question..."was i entertained and did i enjoy it?". When i say no on a regular basis, i'll give up and do something else. Easy... i'm in charge of my poker ....it ain't grinding me!!!
Finally, 'Big', you ARE stronger than you think. I've had tragedy in my life, like so mny others and at one time asked myself "How i am going to smile again?" but the human spirit is strong and , although it will take work, the end result is worth the effort. I'm happier and more knowingly content than i have been at any stage in my life. There is a good book i could rec if you want a helpful read. Send me a personal email if you want mate.
PS Have you thought about posting hands in poker clinic and joining a team as well as playing the DTD forum on a monday(see general poker for the thread). It's nice to have people to chat to and it can give you a FRIENDLY outlet to your frustrations at the moment. All the best mate..
In Response to Re: Real life! : Deffo woudnt see it as a disadvantage m8.Just somethin different.He aint ill so thats the main thing.Thx for postin and enjoy your poker man. Paul Posted by bignoise10
I will do mate.
Sorry if it came across wrong. Your attitude to this does seem extremely good.
Hi Bignoise Just saw your post and felt the need to say hi and my thoughts are with you. Bignoise has a big heart and you can climb this hill successfully, i'm sure. You can feel the support just on here and it does help. Have you considered looking for a support group if your child is diagnosed as autistic. I joined one, for a different matter, and found it so useful to talk to people in the same position. It's good to know that people you tak to understand you completely. As for poker....it is just a game. i play it for fun but i'm trying to improve. I'm a losing player , especially with all the money i've spent on books, but 'm loving it. I give myself an allotted amount per night/week/ month whatever and consider it as 'entertainment' money . At the end, i ask myself one question..."was i entertained and did i enjoy it?". When i say no on a regular basis, i'll give up and do something else. Easy... i'm in charge of my poker ....it ain't grinding me!!! Finally, 'Big', you ARE stronger than you think. I've had tragedy in my life, like so mny others and at one time asked myself "How i am going to smile again?" but the human spirit is strong and , although it will take work, the end result is worth the effort. I'm happier and more knowingly content than i have been at any stage in my life. There is a good book i could rec if you want a helpful read. Send me a personal email if you want mate. PS Have you thought about posting hands in poker clinic and joining a team as well as playing the DTD forum on a monday(see general poker for the thread). It's nice to have people to chat to and it can give you a FRIENDLY outlet to your frustrations at the moment. All the best mate.. Steve aka profman15 Posted by profman15
Appreciate the post prof.Understand your issues m8.Read about them on another thread.Just like I was sayin previously on other posts in this thread, autism aint a"illness", just another thing to overcome.Used to take the game way too seriously man until the weemans issues came to light.Makes you realise.Will deffo look into teams etc in the future once things get settled at home.Thanks for postin man.
In Response to Re: Real life! : Appreciate the post Don.Alls not lost if my wee man has autism.I've a few mates with autistic kids and they function really well in the real world.Again,cheers for the response m8. Paul. Posted by bignoise10
hey bignoise10, belive me all is not lost..my son is 7 and autistic but that is what makes him him. things change when your children are diginosed with differnet things . i winge about poker but in reality its just a game. well take care and good luck with everything steve
I could write thousands of words on this subject, as it is very near to my heart, but maybe it's best I don't.
I'm glad, though, that Aussie has Posted, because his situation was not widely known.
I was aware of that from a long time ago, & we discussed it at length. He then sent me a video of George, who had been taken to Disneyland by aussie09. I swear to God, anyone who saw that video would burst into tears. Not sadness, not at all, but that lad was so happy.
I think fair to say that EVERYONE who has posted on this thread would understand why I, & everyone who works for Sky Poker, will NEVER allow certain words (poker slang for "bad players", which refer to people with learning difficulties) to be used on this Forum.
Every time I see those words it hurts, & I wince. I wince for myself, because despite a full recovery, (though not all would agree.....) the pain of it is still there, after all those years. And so I know just how painful & hurtful it is to so so many others.
It only takes a teeny bit of tolerance towards fellow human beings, a teeny bit of understanding & decency, to think for a moment, & come up with different adjectives for "bad" poker players. If they cannot manage that, they will never get an ounce of respect from me.
In Response to Re: Real life! : I will do mate. Sorry if it came across wrong. Your attitude to this does seem extremely good. Posted by The_Don90
Dont sweat it m8.Your post didnt come accross wrong at all.Plus on a side note,all the responses I'm gettin is makin my wife feel better about the whole situation,so thumbs up for that lol.Cheers.
I found time today to read thru this thread properly, as am always rushing with work & catching up with stuff!!
I found it Humbling, but also inspiring, I am proud of my friends & others who have posted here, Honestly & openly!!
It's not much, but i would like to extend a offer of a place, if wanted, to OUR Team HitSquad to You bignoise10 & IDONKCALLU & any other posters on Here!!
Join in as much or as little, only if you want that is, we have HitSquad Hotnews & a FB group!!
Some of you're now friends are already members, and I am proud to see them posting here in support as the likes of Acebarry10 would have done!
These Hitsquad members make me proud with their posts, and am proud to call them my friends... Ooonorth profman15 lisar83 maggiesdad aussie09 woogie8688 vespaPX & team mentor TK10 with me thats 9 of us!! & well done to ALL other posters
Join in only if you want am sure even a little time with us a week/month may help!! You are very welcome!
Dave Hitman Harvey Hitsquad founder & Captain, 100 members & growing!!
I found time today to read thru this thread properly, as am always rushing with work & catching up with stuff!! I found it Humbling, but also inspiring, I am proud of my friends & others who have posted here, Honestly & openly!! It's not much, but i would like to extend a offer of a place, if wanted, to OUR Team HitSquad to You bignoise10 & IDONKUCALL & any other posters on Here!! Join in as much or as little, only if you want that is, we have HitSquad Hotnews & a FB group!! Some of you're now friends are already members, and I am proud to see them posting here in support as the likes of Acebarry10 would have done! These Hitsquad members make me proud with their posts, and am proud to call them my friends... Ooonorth profman15 lisar83 maggiesdad aussie09 & team mentor TK10 with me thats 7 of us!! & well done to ALL other posters Join in only if you want am sure even a little time with us a week/month may help!! You are very welcome! Dave Hitman Harvey Hitsquad founder & Captain, 100 members & growing!! Posted by HITMAN_RV
Ok RV need to sort you out! IDonkcallu (and please get the name right) is TPT! I'll bet you like poaching eggs too lol.
I found time today to read thru this thread properly, as am always rushing with work & catching up with stuff!! I found it Humbling, but also inspiring, I am proud of my friends & others who have posted here, Honestly & openly!! It's not much, but i would like to extend a offer of a place, if wanted, to OUR Team HitSquad to You bignoise10 & IDONKUCALL & any other posters on Here!! Join in as much or as little, only if you want that is, we have HitSquad Hotnews & a FB group!! Some of you're now friends are already members, and I am proud to see them posting here in support as the likes of Acebarry10 would have done! These Hitsquad members make me proud with their posts, and am proud to call them my friends... Ooonorth profman15 lisar83 maggiesdad aussie09 & team mentor TK10 with me thats 7 of us!! & well done to ALL other posters Join in only if you want am sure even a little time with us a week/month may help!! You are very welcome! Dave Hitman Harvey Hitsquad founder & Captain, 100 members & growing!! Posted by HITMAN_RV
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This is just my story and i know its boring but in sharing my experiances but i believe fully that everyone has great potential. Unlocking that is the key. Disabilities only appear as a barrier, but they do not stop.
Even if the wee man does have Autism please dont see it as a bad thing. It has some major advantages, inparticular in an educational sense.
I'm hoping once he starts special school in Aug and starts seeing more specialists we will get answers with regards to autism. At the moment he is in mainstream nursery with 2 support assistants and he sees the speech therapist once a week. He really has came on brilliantly!! His speech and communication is still very delayed for his age but he is the happiest wee boy (when his routine isn't interrupted!!) and he has the most amazing memory, he never fails to amaze when he can recite upcoming lines in a cartoon months after last seeing it.
I hope all goes well with your son the speech therapists really are amazing. Don't be afraid to ask lots of questions!!
Good luck, Lisa x
Exactly the right attitude to have. I will admit to shedding a few tears when I found out, but once I got that out my system I felt happy to be getting the help that he needs!! Like you say it's just another wee hurdle to overcome. Please keep us posted about speech therapy etc would love to hear how he is getting on.
Lisa
For me, this is the key - learning DIFFICULTIES, not learning IMPOSSIBILITES.
And the sense of achievement that both you and the young person get when something is "learnt" could never be replicated by winning the WSOP itself.
Enjoy your future
Mike
I don't really talk about this at all but because of the contributions in this thread i thought i would write. One story that I have only told to half a dozen people privately before is a trivial anecdote but it had huge meaning for me and it all happened so quickly. I feel that you might understand.
I was once asked, maybe when my son George was about 10 (he is now 25) what would I wish for if I had three wishes. I replied that I wish that George didn't have Down's Syndrome. My second wish, after a wee bit of thinking, was something like having lots of money. My third wish came to me immediately after, and that was to totally undo my first wish.
How fantastic is that?
Rob.
Edited too add: Aussie09 just read your post, that's lovely.
Just saw your post and felt the need to say hi and my thoughts are with you. Bignoise has a big heart and you can climb this hill successfully, i'm sure. You can feel the support just on here and it does help. Have you considered looking for a support group if your child is diagnosed as autistic. I joined one, for a different matter, and found it so useful to talk to people in the same position. It's good to know that people you tak to understand you completely.
As for poker....it is just a game. i play it for fun but i'm trying to improve. I'm a losing player , especially with all the money i've spent on books, but 'm loving it. I give myself an allotted amount per night/week/ month whatever and consider it as 'entertainment' money . At the end, i ask myself one question..."was i entertained and did i enjoy it?". When i say no on a regular basis, i'll give up and do something else. Easy... i'm in charge of my poker ....it ain't grinding me!!!
Finally, 'Big', you ARE stronger than you think. I've had tragedy in my life, like so mny others and at one time asked myself "How i am going to smile again?" but the human spirit is strong and , although it will take work, the end result is worth the effort. I'm happier and more knowingly content than i have been at any stage in my life. There is a good book i could rec if you want a helpful read. Send me a personal email if you want mate.
PS Have you thought about posting hands in poker clinic and joining a team as well as playing the DTD forum on a monday(see general poker for the thread). It's nice to have people to chat to and it can give you a FRIENDLY outlet to your frustrations at the moment. All the best mate..
Steve aka profman15
Sorry if it came across wrong. Your attitude to this does seem extremely good.
steve
Thread just gets better & better.
I could write thousands of words on this subject, as it is very near to my heart, but maybe it's best I don't.
I'm glad, though, that Aussie has Posted, because his situation was not widely known.
I was aware of that from a long time ago, & we discussed it at length. He then sent me a video of George, who had been taken to Disneyland by aussie09. I swear to God, anyone who saw that video would burst into tears. Not sadness, not at all, but that lad was so happy.
I think fair to say that EVERYONE who has posted on this thread would understand why I, & everyone who works for Sky Poker, will NEVER allow certain words (poker slang for "bad players", which refer to people with learning difficulties) to be used on this Forum.
Every time I see those words it hurts, & I wince. I wince for myself, because despite a full recovery, (though not all would agree.....) the pain of it is still there, after all those years. And so I know just how painful & hurtful it is to so so many others.
It only takes a teeny bit of tolerance towards fellow human beings, a teeny bit of understanding & decency, to think for a moment, & come up with different adjectives for "bad" poker players. If they cannot manage that, they will never get an ounce of respect from me.
I found it Humbling, but also inspiring, I am proud of my friends & others who have posted here, Honestly & openly!!
It's not much, but i would like to extend a offer of a place, if wanted, to OUR Team HitSquad to You bignoise10 & IDONKCALLU & any other posters on Here!!
Join in as much or as little, only if you want that is, we have HitSquad Hotnews & a FB group!!
Some of you're now friends are already members, and I am proud to see them posting here in support as the likes of Acebarry10 would have done!
These Hitsquad members make me proud with their posts, and am proud to call them my friends...
Ooonorth
profman15
lisar83
maggiesdad
aussie09
woogie8688
vespaPX
& team mentor TK10
with me thats 9 of us!! & well done to ALL other posters
Join in only if you want am sure even a little time with us a week/month may help!!
You are very welcome!
Dave Hitman Harvey
Hitsquad founder & Captain, 100 members & growing!!